COUPLES IN CRISIS

What is Discernment Counseling?

Are you having the same conversation over and over (again)?

Is your marriage falling apart in front of your eyes?

Has there been an affair or betrayal?

If you or your spouse are considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path, you are in a tough spot. Discernment Counseling is designed for you. It’s a chance to slowdown, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage.

Designed to get couples unstuck and decide to work on it or move on.
Clarity about how you got to this difficult spot.
Options of how to move forward.
Confidence in what path you want to take moving forward.

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Discover a new path for your relationship with Discernment Counseling

Discernment Counseling is a new way of helping couples where one person is “leaning out” of the relationship—and not sure that regular marriage counseling would help--and the other is "leaning in”—that is, interested in rebuilding the marriage.

The counselor will help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take a time out and decide later.

The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.

Revitalizing marriages: discover solutions beyond divorce with compassionate counseling

The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to see if they are solvable.

You will each be treated with compassion and respect no matter how you are feeling about your marriage at the moment. No bad guys and good guys.

You will come in as a couple but the most important work occurs in the one-to-one conversations with the counselor. Why? Because you are starting out in different places.

The counselor respects your reasons for divorce while trying to open up the possibility of restoring the marriage to health.

The counselor emphasizes the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This will be useful in future relationships even if this one ends.

Fees and Sessions:

A maximum of 5 sessions.

The first session is 120 minutes and the subsequent sessions are 90 minutes.

Are Discernment services available to couples residing outside of California?

Yes! Contact us for your free 20 minute consultation.

Discernment Counseling is not suited for these situations:

When one spouse has already made a final decision to divorce.
When one spouse is coercing the other to participate.
When there is danger of domestic violence.

TESTIMONIAL

"Discernment counseling changed my life"

"Discernment counseling changed my life when I needed it most. The counselor created a safe space for us to figure out the future of our marriage. She didn't rush us into a decision but helped us explore our feelings and understand our roles in the relationship. Instead of pushing us to make a decision, she empowered us to see the possibilities and outcomes of each choice. If you're navigating a strained marriage, I highly recommend doing discernment."